In this Helicopter parents not doing enough to let children fail.
THE belief that regular praise will improve the self-esteem of students has backfired, with educators urging over-anxious parents to let their children fail so they can learn from their mistakes.
Parents were also doing too much for their children who were becoming less resilient and unable to cope with failure. Some were even too scared to put up their hand in class and risk giving the wrong answer.
Should we be concerned about our mistakes in learning? Yes, that is what most educators would advise, isn’t it? We should aim for excellence, make no mistakes – zero defects.
If you worry about making mistakes at school or at work, you may not even bother to try the task, and so you won’t make any mistakes. Eventually, you may quit the study or work, because you don’t think it’s worthwhile to take those risk – of failure. Do you think that is the best way for you to learn?
Children make lots of mistakes when they start to learn. The best learning experience for them is to learn through the mistakes, so they realise the importance of continuous development and improvement throughout their childhood.
Many adults don’t want to make mistakes because they might have been educated not to make mistakes in their school days. Many of us are too afraid to make any mistakes, privately or at work, because making mistakes may reveal our weaknesses, and could lead to our “losing face”. We don’t seem to like mistakes.
Make no mistakes! Is that a mistake?
Learning is about making mistakes, each time with less mistakes, until there is no mistake! Think about safe driving, with no mistakes.
Should we be aiming to make less mistakes in our journey of life. How?
Think about the Olympians. How did they learn?
And the jugglers. How did they learn? Through repeated practice, and reflection.
So an effective approach to minimise mistakes during the learning process is through a cycle of practice followed by a reflection of the learning experience. Here, mistakes are viewed as a natural part of the learning process.
Consider this reflective learning
Reflection can help you to:
- better understand your strengths and weaknesses
- identify and question your underlying values and beliefs
- acknowledge and challenge possible assumptions on which you base your ideas, feelings and actions
- recognize areas of potential bias or discrimination
- acknowledge your fears, and
- identify possible inadequacies or areas for improvement.
Reflection can lead to greater self-awareness, which in turn is a first step to positive change – it is a necessary stage in identifying areas for improvement and growth in both personal and professional contexts. Taking time to reflect can help you identify approaches that have worked well, and in that way reinforce good practice.
Life = Risk
If you never failed, you never lived.
How do you view failures?