Aren’t we all looking for connections in the networks and in real life?
Why do we need connections? Jannalou says:
“I am a person who prefers solitude to a crowded, noisy coffee shop, and who will seek out a quiet corner at a party, even when there are plenty of friends around.
So I enjoy being alone. I’m an introvert, so that makes sense. (I behave much like an extrovert, but I firmly believe that has more to do with behavioural programming overtaking and sabotaging internal wiring than it does my actual nature and personality.) I have called this blog my “hermiting blog” specifically because of this sense of disconnect that I feel in crowds of people. I do not find groups to be engaging or energising… they are simply draining.
Yet, in spite of this need for solitude, I feel an overwhelming drive to forge connections with other human beings. The need for connection to God is stronger, but this desire for connection with another person – it is, I believe, what drives most people to pursue romantic relationships.”
She continues: “Solitude is not the same as isolation, and it is not loneliness. It is merely the state of being alone for a period of time. Some people are only alone when they are asleep; others, like myself, actively seek out solitude on a regular basis. We need time alone to recharge, to grow, to nurture our inner selves.”
I share some of the views of Jannalou. I think solitude is very important for personal reflection and learning. This may stem from my views of the world and experience when learning and working with others, with technology and networks, where connections could be healthy and fruitful on one hand, but challenging on the other hand. It seems to me that the kind of connections would make a big difference, especially in the establishment of relationships, and in learning over networks and technology.
In this amazing talk by Sherry Turkle:
As we expect more from technology, do we expect less from each other? Sherry Turkle studies how our devices and online personas are redefining human connection and communication — and asks us to think deeply about the new kinds of connection we want to have.
Are we leading a life which relies heavily on connections, based on technology? In a world where we seem to be so busy all the time, that we won’t even bother to have a conversation with each others, are we passing by each others, without much attention on the message, or bother to listen to others’ message?
How would we be able to establish relationship, and maintain connections if those conversations are just superficially touched on?
How would we expect to understand and lead others if we don’t practice empathetic listening and reflective learning ourselves?
There is another side of the technology mediated connections and conversation. Here in my post:
May I add that this is where we could get our connective and collective wisdom from? Aren’t we once very creative as kids? Our creativity gradually gets lost as we tried to march through the busy life – the manic society. We have been too busy in trying to do the things right, as is expected in our formal education, learning and that at work. That sounds great, in terms of performance in study, at work.
However, are those sufficient for us (me) to do when it comes to personal development and social involvement? How would creativity be instilled at work and learning at this digital age? Should we concentrate on what’s most important and valuable in our study or at work only? Do we need to connect in a way that could both satisfy our needs and passion but also challenge our wisdom of knowledge, learning and living? What spark the most creative part of our life?
We are basing upon the emotional selection of memes in our sharing, and memes play a big part in creativity development. ”Constant, rapid “mutation” of information during communication generates endlessly varied creations that nevertheless adhere to modular input conditions.”
Photo credit: from Flickr
Acknowledgement: Thanks to Stephen for the referred link.