Hi Ken and all,
I have thought about my response to your interesting discussion here for a long time, and here it is:
Interesting to reflect on what we had learnt about conflicts in CCK08, especially when participants have “strong views” and “distasteful remarks which sound condescending to others”. If we want to model our conversation for our next generation, would we be expecting each other to engage in ”fruitful” conversations based on open sharing of views and perceptions, with respect and trust?
We could each state our reasons, our interpretations or our views. However in reciprocity, we may need to engage with others with active listening, and acknowledging and valuing each others’ views in an open and constructive manner. If we don’t understand others’ views, how could we expect others to understand us? Is empathy important in online conversation?
We could disagree with others on the principles we consider “wrong” or “misleading”. We could agree to disagree. That is perfectly fine.
However, I don’t think it is wise to criticise others in an online environment simply because the other person is holding a different belief from us, or that they do not agree with us. If we think the person’s belief or the information provided is wrong, a few probing questions may be what is needed to challenge him or her – that requires us to ask the right question, with the “right” tone, and with a “right” sense of respect.
There may be occasions when an instructor or learner would offer criticisms, but such criticisms or critiques would be based on the idea, principle that don’t seem right, or some provocative or disruptive behaviour exhibited by others.
From an educational point of view, any criticism should be based on the “behaviour” exhibited by others like name calling with an insulting language (the special “alpha” words…), or labelling others inappropriately (sentencing others as trolls or bullies), ”shouting” or “yelling” with condescending commands, in an online environment.
We could discredit the disruptive behaviour, or neglect those who exhibit such behaviour. That may be the constraint that we could exercise on “trolls” or “bullies”. We could also exercise our choice of connections, by avoiding any spammers or trolls.
So instead of stating what may be an unacceptable behaviour, we could also question each others’ responses or arguments, rather than forcing each others to accept our views. Would that be the adult-adult communication pattern, rather than the parent-child communication pattern based on command and control?
I think we all like to be respected, especially when engaged in online conversation. One litmus test would be:”Treat others as you would like to be treated“.
We could all exercise our autonomy in learning, especially online. At times, we may sound too polite in the networks, especially with the appreciative inquiry, that may lead to the echo chamber effect or the group think, without any critical thinking behind the ideas. On the other hand, too harsh pushes on each others’ thoughts and ideas could also hinder innovative ideas from its incubation, and the respect on others’ ideas.
Online conversation is an art that requires great networking and communication skills….
Would that explain why some people find it harder to engage than others in the online world?
So, imagine if one is immersed in a network, and is not respected by others, would it be important to ask why? What cause that disrespect?
Now, this marks the end of CCK09. Thanks George and Stephen for this wonderful CCK09, and I enjoyed the company of many co-learners throughout this CCK09 journey. Fantastic!
